They never said parenting was easy

So before i start let me be the first to say i was never one of those "oh let me by a book to tell me how to parent" parent's.  Parenting is not something you can learn out of a book, if they made it that easy we would all be perfect people with no issues.  Any ways.... I love my daughter to death, i would not trade her for anything but sometimes she has me wanting to pull my hair out while screaming! So when  i get asked how old Adeline is i typically say 6 going on 16. She can be so sweet and loving and a touch of wild child and then we get her 16 yr old side of attitude, disrespect and just down right does not listen to us no matter what.  We have always been big on if we say you are in time out or grounded then thats it, no giving in and we have a set of house rules that Everyone follows (because adults should be held accountable for their actions too and it helps show that no one can act up) and we stick to it, also if we take away something she loves to try and teach her that how she acted was highly inappropriate , she just does not get it back because she acted good later that day she has to earn it back. We do not let our kids walk all over us and i am not afraid to use grounding and time out and if she acts up in a store i do not hand her toys to make her be quiet, that drives me crazy when i see parents giving in to a screaming brat of a child who is not getting their way.  i will take her out of the store or were ever we are at if she will not stop.  My child will treat people with respect and not act like spoiled brats.  Lately no matter what we say or do with Adeline it just does not seem to matter.  So my husband heard about this book

and i love it so far, i am not that far in to it but it describes everything we currently do (which is not working)  and helps us find a new way to handle the problem and the ways they talk about are just like "wow why have i not been doing that" and "that makes so much sense!" now this does not make you a bad parent (i kind of felt like crap at first) but if you are aware that your disciple is not working and you are trying to find a new way that will work then that just makes you a great parent and it means you care about how your child acts.  Even if you have that "perfect" never misbehaves (which I'm sorry every child has their moment, some just do not show up right away, my daughter did not have the "terrible 2s" until like she was 4 almost 5) i would still recommend this book. It is our jobs as parents to raise our children in to adults who one day will be able to provide and take care of them selfs and may some day have children of their own.  We need to teach them how to act, this is not something they know how to do the minute they come in to the world.  When children misbehave it is a refection on us as parents, some misbehave more then others, not every child is the same but there is a method for every child, you as the parent just have to find what works for you and when that stops working you have to find a new way.  I also think you need to start some sort of age appropriate disciple early.  I was reading of this one mothers  discussion web site on how they don't think 1 year olds understand what "NO" means so you don't need to have a serious tone in your voice when you say it because they won't understand.  Well guess what people children, even 1 year olds are smart as hell and are little sponges and understand more then you think they do.  Jackson learned what no meant very early on, once he was on the move we made sure he knew "NO" meant do not do or touch.  You are not horrible for telling your 1 year old no, it means you care and do not want them to get hurt, and it will not traumatize them and put them on intervention when they get older because you started making sure they knew right from wrong at an early age.  One day when they have kids they will thank you.   I could go on and on about this, yes they are children and this is the time for them to have fun and explore and learn but you also have to be a parent  before a friend and a child knows when they can walk all over you and personally if you allow them to do that they will not have a great future ahead of them when they grown up. Well I need to get some stuff done while Jackson naps so i am off for now!